Japan Today Article

Twitter has allowed me to ‘meet’ people all around the world including the Editor of Japan Today an English language newspaper in Japan.  What a stroke of luck!  He kindly allowed me to send him a press release and then printed it!  I feel very honoured and absolutely thrilled to know that people in Japan know about me and my self help ebooks.  How marvelous the internet is for all of us!  It’s life changing for me!

Here is what was printed in Japan Today:-

“New Help for those with nowhere else to turn…

Tokyo – Domestic violence, rape, bullying, depression and alcoholism are more common in relationships than we care to think.  They are all issues most women don’t ever dare speak about, even to their mothers or closest friends.  But the wall of silence often surrounding them means many people have nowhere to turn for help they desperately need. 

Psychotherapist and Author, Susan Jane Smith, recognizes this is a problem potentially facing Japanese society, among others.  Her self-help book, “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” offers practical, sensitive guidance on dealing with these taboo subjects and many forms of emotional pain. 

( It is now available in Japan for the first time via http://Amazon.jp./gp/product/B005FFTNEY)

Subtitled “The View from the Therapist’s Office”, the book also includes chapters on love, parenting through divorce, stress and bereavement.  Smith has over 20 years’ experience as a psychotherapist in the UK and the USA.  She has counselled thousands of women – and men – in ways of coping with all manner of emotional challenges, both within and outside marriage and relationships.

“Nothing shocks me,” she says.  “But I know how difficult it can be for people to speak openly about things like domestic violence or abuse, particularly in non-Western cultures.  My book is designed to help them confront and manage all sorts of types of emotional pain.  This pain needs healing before a person can have the emotional wealth required for a happier life, hence the title of my book.”

“If you feel you can’t speak to anyone about your emotional problems or you just want to better understand how to deal with them, then “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” will give you support and guidance.”

Smith’s other self-help book “Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection” is also now available in Japan.  It is designed to enable betrothed couples to assess their relationship before the wedding and to highlight and hopefully address potential emotional problems.  As Smith states: “Marriage is so much more than just the ceremony.”

Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection” can be downloaded from Amazon on http://amazon.jp/gp/product/B005LSD62A

 Personally, I am very grateful that Japan Today published this information so if you know anyone in Japan please share it with them. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Domination!

My Twitter followers number over 1800 now and many are following, I suspect, because I am open about being a survivor of incest, rape and domestic violence.  My childhood suffering has driven a need within me for knowledge and understanding.  I’ve read all the self help books I could and I re-trained to do counselling when in my thirties. I trained as a divorce mediator also.  I’ve spent over twenty years looking at other people’s lives as well as my own.  You can find out more about me in my Amazon Author Bio and on the About Me page of www.EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk

One theme runs through a lot of my observations:  domination.  It does not need to be as severe as abuse.  It can be as subtle as not saying what you actually want.  It may be that one person in a relationship controls the money and, therefore, can chose where the couple live, what they eat, clothes they wear, and where they go.  This is an unbalanced relationship.  One person has more control than the other.

Negotiating a win win is the most equitable style of living togther so you both get some of what you each want. In a compromise, each person has to give up something to get to the middle, so negotiation is the best way forward.

When a persom is dominant it is being driven by fear and their inadequacies and an inability to cope. They usually have poor communication skills and those could be improved if the dominent person had the incentive to do that work.  In my opinion, counselling and personal growth is the only way forward.  Sadly for many who are dominent their very fears (particularly of change) keep them trapped and unable to seek help.  Frequently destroying a relationship – so sad.  Further, not a good example to any children of the relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

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Creating Healthy Emotions!

Did you know that this website (www.EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk) has a sister site in the making?  We recently delivered our draft to the designer for www.HealthyEmotions.co.uk and it will launch within the next few weeks.  My business partner (Elaine Barnes) and I are very excited about this project.  We are intending to bring audio material to people with dyslexia and those people who have similar difficulties with reading.  The focus will be on emotional issues because that is where our expertise lies – we are both experienced Counsellors..

Thus, I have been reading the e-book Like A Virgin by Richard Branson to see if I can learn to think like an entrepreneur!  I admire not only his business expertise, but the fact that he thinks “outside the box”.  The more research I have done into dyslexia the more it appears that thinking differently to other people may well be a hallmark of someone using dyslexia to develop creative solutions.  Just because a person did not fit into the conventional educational system does in no way mean that they are stupid.  Being a square peg in the round hole of academia may be uncomfortable and alternative learning found.

Since Sir Richard Branson (founder of the Virgin Group of businesses) is one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world, what he has to say about business struck me as appropriate learning for me.  My bachelor’s degree is in business management, but from 1985, so well out of date!  Tips that I have learnt from reading Like A Virgin:- take calculated risks, be willing to change your mind or direction if something isn’t working, focus on the future – don’t dwell on mistakes, bring talented people together, communication is key – listen to customers and staff.  Above all have fun!

There is a lot of other knowledge in Like A Virgin so I would thoroughly recommend you purchase a copy for yourself if you are in business.

Watch my blogs at www.Goodreads.com for more of my thoughts about what Healthy Emotions Ltd. can learn from Virgin!

Please contact us at Healthy Emotions if you are dyslexic or have a loved one who is dyslexic.  We would like to hear from you about your experiences.

Email:  Susan@HealthyEmotions.co.uk or Elaine@HealthyEmotions.co.uk

 

 

 

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The Trouble with Porn – India, Rape & the Police.

Pornography allows men to think of a woman’s body as just an object.  If they look at porn enough it is easy to forget that the person in front of them during sex is a human being with feelings.  The rape levels in India are not helped by the level of pornography and pornographic ‘jokes’ which obviously are not funny.

When there is a patriarchal culture there is an erroneous belief that men are superior and thus women inferior.  This further enhances an inadequate man’s belief that he can behave however he wishes, especially sexually…sexual harassment, domestic violence, rape.

Attitudes need to change for India to be accepted into the international community of our modern high tech world.  People know very quickly about behaviour in all countries now that the internet connects us.

The USA did a wonderful job (decades ago) of educating it’s police force by using rape crisis groups to teach them about what is acceptable and what is not.  Now it is time for India and other countries to force their police to think through their behaviour and take complaints seriously.  Laws alone won’t do the necessary – if the police ignore complaints people won’t complain.  That is what I understand is happening in India.  Where else?

What is your police force’s rape protocol?  Do you know?  Maybe it is time you asked!

Please see what I have to say about rapists and marital rape in particular in my Amazon Self Help E-book:-

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Coronation Street Domestic Violence

English TV has a soap opera called “Coronation Street”.  It’s one that I have watched for years and was initially pleased that they started displaying a domestic violence scenario.  I initially thought the writers were being clever showing domestic violence from a woman to a man as a way of bringing the information home to people more effectively.

It wasn’t until last night that I realised that they were intending to demonstrate female to male domestic abuse.  Whilst this does occur it is a small percentage of domestic violence cases.  Frequently the abuse a man can inflict is also greater than a woman can do as harm to a man.

Year’s ago I ran a rape and domestic violence crisis centre and yes, men do get raped and they do get abused by women.  In my opinion and experience that is not the majority of cases and thus I am concerned that the Coronation Street show is creating an inappropriate illusion in the minds of the viewing public.  What do you think?

See my self-help e-book to see more about what I think!

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B009T5BDAI

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SELF HELP QUEEN!

By Susan Jane Smith B.Sc.

 

Forget ‘Dancing Queen ‘ (song by Abba) I think I’ve become the Self-Help Queen now that my 23 books/e-books are for sale on Amazon!

I am a survivor of incest, rape, domestic violence and the miscarriage of my baby.  I spent 3 years in counselling in the U.S.A. and turned my life around personally and professionally.  I re-trained.

Over 20 years as a Psychotherapist and 5 years as a Divorce Mediator followed.  Now I am writing self-help e-books to help other people.  I hope my books will inspire you to change your life if you are sad, angry, stressed, depressed or unhappy.

My 17 e-books in the Little Book Series of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth were written to give you a starting place – some basic information and support.  Through Amazon they are selling world-wide:  U.S.A., Canada, U.K., France, Germany, Spain, Italy, India, Brazil, Japan, China and via http://www.Amazon.com in Australia and New Zealand.

If you read self-help books please check these out:-

Sexual Abuse & Incest

Physical & Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child

Rape Not Sexual Assault

Charming Men and Chauvinists (about domestic violence)

What Passes for Passion on TV (about loving too much/obsessing)

Walking on Egg Shells (about anger)

My Drinking Isn’t A Problem!

Feeling Down?

Parenting Your Way Through Divorce

Food and Thought

Superwoman Does Not Exist (about stress)

Loss is Part of Life (about bereavement and other loss)

Why Walk Into a Therapist’s Office?

What Every 16 Year Old Needs to Know About Love

How a Functional Family Might Look Like

How Not To Be A Doormat

 

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Profile Update! Social Media Takes Time!
Author

Well, I have had a busy few days updating my profile on www.Goodreads.com, www.facebook.com/EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk, Linked In, and have still to do Google + and Twitter!  I have also got my website designers to update my website so take a look at the store page in a couple of days – it should show 23 books for sale by Christmas!

Updating my biography has taken the longest and I am publishing the updated version here too just in case you want to know more about me!

I have been motivated by authors like Louise Hay, Susan Jeffers, Susan Forward, Rhonda Byrne, and Paul McKenna.  Now it is my chance to inspire positive change in other people.  I turned to books to learn about how to heal and create a happier life.  As a survivor of incest, rape, domestic violence and the miscarriage of my baby, I went against my family norm and undertook counselling to sort out my feelings.  I turned my life around and hope that you will be able to gain some insight and support from my self-help e-books.

After a career in admin I gained a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Management in my thirties.  I then re-trained because I felt that there had to be more to life than pushing paper around!

I was a Psychotherapist in private practice from 1987 until 2009.  I was born in New Hampshire, U.S.A. and because of my English Mother, I grew up in Lydney, Gloucestershire, England.  I returned to this area and live with the tranquillity of the beautiful Forest of Dean.

Previously, I had a successful counselling practice in Milton Keynes, Buckinghamshire, England for 17 years.  My professional education comes mainly from the U.S.A. where I was awarded a degree in Business Management and went on to study for a master’s degree in community psychology.  My Father died and I returned to England with my Mother.

I was also a Divorce Mediator for five years with the Family Mediators Association and a Professional Practice Consultant for the U.K. College of Family Mediation.  I bring that broad range of experience to my books “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” and “Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection”.  See the About Me page of my website: www.EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk for more information about my training and experience.  Both of these books are currently available in paperback from my website or via the book stores.  Both are Kindle e-books, available on my website also, and are e-pub available for other e-book readers via the major retailer’s on-line book stores in the U.K. and the U.S.A.

My latest book “Hugs & Emotional Wealth Change the World” is about how people can be kinder to each other using hugs and take personal responsibility for their quality of emotional wealth by understanding themselves better.  Thus the individual’s efforts will change the world as more people take care of themselves and thus others and the world in general.  Please do take a look at this book for all our sakes and especially for those of your children and grandchildren.

My Little Book Series of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth are re-packaged sections from the original book formulated as e-books.  They allow people to purchase information about specific topics and see what I have to say about them!  Amazon now offers:

Sexual Abuse & Incest

Physical & Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child

Rape – Not Sexual Assault

Charming Men and Chauvinists

What Passes for Passion on TV

Walking on Egg Shells

Worry Doesn’t Fix Anything

My Drinking Isn’t a problem!

Feeling Down?

Parenting Your Way Through Divorce

Food and Thought

Superwoman Does Not Exist

Loss is Part of Life

Why Walk Into A Therapists’ Office?  (Journey, Benefits and When Therapy Won’t Work)

What Every 16 Year Old Needs to Know about Love

How a Functional Family Might Look

How Not to be a Doormat

I would like people to stop and think about their relationships and would love people to feel empowered to create an emotionally wealthy world!

 

 

 

 

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E-Book Publishing Adventure

Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L.James has sold brilliantly and yes, I am jealous that my book Emotional Health For Emotional Wealth is selling slowly.  What I wrote as a Psychotherapist is the polar opposite of the ‘mummy porn’ which includes sadomasochism in Fifty Shades.  My husband wants to know why I don’t write books like that as they make money – well, I would not dream of it, because what you read affects what your mind is willing to tolerate in real life and, in my opinion, Fifty Shades opens women up to tolerating abuse in their sexual lives.

This promped me to take a second look at what Rachel Abbott (author of Only the Innocent) wrote as a guest blog on www.AuthorsElectric.co.uk  (30 July 2012) about marketing e-books.  My paperback of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth sold at Foyles and Waterstones so I investigated how to get the e-book sold there too.  It already sells on www.Amazon.com and www.Amazon.co.uk as well as on this website www.EmotionalHealthForEmotionalWealth.co.uk

Waterstones came back to me saying that I needed to work with one of the content aggregators that they use: www.eBookpartnership.com (Mint Associates Ltd.) or Easy Press Technologies (www.easypress.com).  Rachel Abbott speaks well of her experience with eBookpartnership on their website so that is who I will probably use.  They also have the advantage of including Barnes & Nobel and Ingrams in their ‘stable’ of distributers/retailers.  Further, Gardners Books Ltd. (a major UK distributor) work with them which opens up 77 retail possibilities including Tesco, Foyles, and Hive.  Of course, Amazon & Apple are places where eBookpartnerships send your e-book too.

Waterstones require VAT registration and I have not done that as my sales do not warrant it yet and I hate the thought of the paperwork.  That is where using a content aggregator helps because they are VAT registered and there is VAT on e-books I understand!

Waterstones require an ISBN connected to the Enhanced Service of Nielsens.  This is available via eBookpartnership for a yearly fee.  As a small publisher I could buy Nielsen’s Enhanced Service, but for now at least the eBookpartnership option is a smaller upfront cost.  Waterstones apparently will not deal with Lulu nor Smashwords so whilst I have published one of my e-books via Smashwords they don’t look so good an option now if I want the broadest of marketing possibilities.

I’ve read the contracts from eBookpartnership and they do make it clear that whilst they can ‘push’ the information about my book out to their retailers, those retailers have their own approval process prior to listing me on their websites.  What is worse, the retailers control the price they charge for my e-book and if they decide to discount it my royalties shrink.  Still worth the risk?

I think Matt Horner of eBookpartnerships has been clever in the format that has been  created for this enterprise – they get their fees upfront so they cannot lose.  Hats off to them.  EasyPress Technologies and Smashwords take commission on sales, is my understanding, so that might be a more effective system for authors.  I simply cannot agonise over the options!

It is not enough to write a book or e-book – you do have to be willing to market your work through press releases, book reviews, book signings (obviously for paperbacks not e-books), talks to groups of readers, use Twitter, Google +, Facebook, Linked In, www.Goodreads.com, forums, and as many places to tell people about your work as you can find!

 

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Stopping to Think!

My degree is in Business Management so I thought it might be a good idea to stop and think about my approach to my new career as an Author.  I’m still amazed that I have been able to write my books let alone blog (I blog on the 12th of the month at www.AuthorsElectric.co.uk and on the 21st at www.Goodreads.com).  Yes, I am one of those boring people who writes a business plan and includes a written marketing strategy. Years ago I realised that you put your thoughts onto paper because you then focus more effectively and are more likely to make it happen.  Business plans are not  just for bank loans, they need to be for clarity of thought.

Last year I read John Locke’s book “How I Sold a Million E-Books in Five Months”.  It led me to tweeting, being on Facebook (even though I still don’t understand it) and Google+ which I am just investigating.  My neighbour’s son helped me to get a You Tube item up even if we could not make the book turn the right way up!  These are all buttons on my re-designed website.

You have probably already noticed that you can purchase my e-books via this website.  A real adventure in publishing for me to turn the books into e-books.  They are  also available on Amazon and will be eventually in Barnes & Noble etc.

I have been so impressed by the kindness and patience of Mr Jez Walton of System Force IT Ltd, Gloucestershire, England.  It would not have been possible for me to find my way through the minefield of website programming and search engine optimization and I hope you find my website useful.  Let me know if not please.

Locke leading me into social networking has been fun and and I have also taken on board what he said about needing to have multiple books for sale.  That sent me scratching my head.  Yes, I have written “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth”, “Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection” and then a fundraising book to support cat rescue work “Harry’s Home! A Cat Compendium” (I have 7 rescue cats of my own plus a rescue dog).  My dilemma was what could I write about?

Luckily, I found “E-book Magic” by Bakari Akil II PhD.  He talked about being able to re-package e-books.  A new concept for me and that opened up a whole new level of possibilities.  The chapters of “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” were written to stand alone as not everything is relevant to all people.  Now I could see a way forward.  I am in the process of having some chapters re-packaged and selling them for £1 here and on Amazon so that financially the information becomes available to the majority of people.

Check out the list in the more… information section about the first re-packaged book “Sexual Abuse & Incest”. These  other e-books will be added shortly.

You can get a free copy of “How a Functional Family Might Look” if you insert your email address into the box at the bottom of the website page.

I hope to inspire a million people for positive change so please help me by telling your friends, family and colleagues about this website and my books.  Thank you.

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