Japan Today Article

Twitter has allowed me to ‘meet’ people all around the world including the Editor of Japan Today an English language newspaper in Japan.  What a stroke of luck!  He kindly allowed me to send him a press release and then printed it!  I feel very honoured and absolutely thrilled to know that people in Japan know about me and my self help ebooks.  How marvelous the internet is for all of us!  It’s life changing for me!

Here is what was printed in Japan Today:-

“New Help for those with nowhere else to turn…

Tokyo – Domestic violence, rape, bullying, depression and alcoholism are more common in relationships than we care to think.  They are all issues most women don’t ever dare speak about, even to their mothers or closest friends.  But the wall of silence often surrounding them means many people have nowhere to turn for help they desperately need. 

Psychotherapist and Author, Susan Jane Smith, recognizes this is a problem potentially facing Japanese society, among others.  Her self-help book, “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” offers practical, sensitive guidance on dealing with these taboo subjects and many forms of emotional pain. 

( It is now available in Japan for the first time via http://Amazon.jp./gp/product/B005FFTNEY)

Subtitled “The View from the Therapist’s Office”, the book also includes chapters on love, parenting through divorce, stress and bereavement.  Smith has over 20 years’ experience as a psychotherapist in the UK and the USA.  She has counselled thousands of women – and men – in ways of coping with all manner of emotional challenges, both within and outside marriage and relationships.

“Nothing shocks me,” she says.  “But I know how difficult it can be for people to speak openly about things like domestic violence or abuse, particularly in non-Western cultures.  My book is designed to help them confront and manage all sorts of types of emotional pain.  This pain needs healing before a person can have the emotional wealth required for a happier life, hence the title of my book.”

“If you feel you can’t speak to anyone about your emotional problems or you just want to better understand how to deal with them, then “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth” will give you support and guidance.”

Smith’s other self-help book “Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection” is also now available in Japan.  It is designed to enable betrothed couples to assess their relationship before the wedding and to highlight and hopefully address potential emotional problems.  As Smith states: “Marriage is so much more than just the ceremony.”

Pre-Marital MOT: A Relationship Inspection” can be downloaded from Amazon on http://amazon.jp/gp/product/B005LSD62A

 Personally, I am very grateful that Japan Today published this information so if you know anyone in Japan please share it with them. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments Off
Grab It Whilst You Can!

Way back in the 1960′s, when I was a teenager, I read a book about two lads having a great time with life and I believe that paperback was called “Grab It While You Can”.  The book has long since been lost or given away and the author’s name a mystery to me now.  Still the title stuck with me as a way of living your life.  Life seems to get shorter with age so I am firmly of the belief that you need to get on living your dreams or whatever life you want to create for yourself.

A couple of weeks ago I was traumatised when I went to see an elderly Aunt only to discover that she had fallen upstairs in her house and could not summon help.  I had to get the police to break a window and a lovely ambulance man dove through and let us in.  I had expected to find her dead, yet what we found was a crumpled heap -  cold but alive.  She had been in her very cold bedroom, on the floor in a nightie, for about 4 hours.  Still she was lucky and is now in hospital and recovering.  She looked so frail when I found her.

The trauma for me was that it re-created when I found my Mother dead.  In both instances my body’s reaction, as I called the emergency services, was to shake uncontrollably.  It has taken me all this time to be able to feel normal again.  My reactions are probably worse because I struggle with Post Traumatic Stress as a result of abuse in childhood. 

Nevertheless, it has been a good reminder that we all need to grab life NOW!  I have so much I want to do and time seems to be shortening.  When young you feel as if you have forever to accomplish your dreams.  Not so…get on with it.

Bereavement and ill health are forms of loss.  You can also experience loss and need to grieve when you lose a job, a pet, a friend, a relationship.  Learn to understand that the process of grief is, in simplistic terms: feelings of unreality (shock), sadness, anger (yes even if unreasonably at the person who has died and abandoned you) and acceptance. 

This is not a linear progression.  You can be sad one minute and angry the next.  The feelings can come at inappropriate times like whilst shopping.  The first year is the hardest and the second is slightly easier to bear when there is a serious loss.  If you feel stuck in grief do get some counselling to help you move on.  Whatever you have lost cannot be returned into your life by holding on to the pain of the loss.

Luckily in my thirties I experienced ten family deaths in six years.  A lot for any person.  I now consider it fortunate as I was forced to learn to cope through those losses.  My e-book Loss is Part of Life is available in this website’s book store or via Amazon worldwide.  It was written with the intention to help provide support and understanding.

Comments Off
SELF HELP QUEEN!

By Susan Jane Smith B.Sc.

 

Forget ‘Dancing Queen ‘ (song by Abba) I think I’ve become the Self-Help Queen now that my 23 books/e-books are for sale on Amazon!

I am a survivor of incest, rape, domestic violence and the miscarriage of my baby.  I spent 3 years in counselling in the U.S.A. and turned my life around personally and professionally.  I re-trained.

Over 20 years as a Psychotherapist and 5 years as a Divorce Mediator followed.  Now I am writing self-help e-books to help other people.  I hope my books will inspire you to change your life if you are sad, angry, stressed, depressed or unhappy.

My 17 e-books in the Little Book Series of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth were written to give you a starting place – some basic information and support.  Through Amazon they are selling world-wide:  U.S.A., Canada, U.K., France, Germany, Spain, Italy, India, Brazil, Japan, China and via http://www.Amazon.com in Australia and New Zealand.

If you read self-help books please check these out:-

Sexual Abuse & Incest

Physical & Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child

Rape Not Sexual Assault

Charming Men and Chauvinists (about domestic violence)

What Passes for Passion on TV (about loving too much/obsessing)

Walking on Egg Shells (about anger)

My Drinking Isn’t A Problem!

Feeling Down?

Parenting Your Way Through Divorce

Food and Thought

Superwoman Does Not Exist (about stress)

Loss is Part of Life (about bereavement and other loss)

Why Walk Into a Therapist’s Office?

What Every 16 Year Old Needs to Know About Love

How a Functional Family Might Look Like

How Not To Be A Doormat

 

Comments Off
Physical and Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child

Child abuse is the latest topic in my series of Little Books of Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth.  This one is called “Physical and Emotional Abuse Hurts the World as Well as The Child” because when a child is abused they struggle to become funtional and productive members of society – no matter where they live.  You will see that the book includes some guidance for governments around the world about what child abuse is and does to human beings.  It is now a Kindle e-book and is available on www.Amazon.com/dp/B0090LHM6A for 99cents US to make it affordable and at www.Amazon.co.uk/dp/B0090LHM6A  and it will be on this website shortly.

It’s ISBN is 978-0-9553698-6-5.

Child abuse that is physical is comparatively easy to recognise – hitting, beatings, caging, cutting, burning with cigarettes, etc.  The physical impact is only a part of the damage done to a child.  The message the child gets is that they are worthless and not loveable.  This can be overcome with a lot of psychological support perferably through counselling.  And, if not with a Child Psychologist, then when the abused person is an adult.

Emotional abuse hurts just as much – putdowns, disproportionate angry responses by adults, subtle messages like “bad boy or bad girl” within a telling off.  What would be  better said is that “the behaviour is not appropriate” not that the child is inately bad as a person – no one is.

If you grew up this way do not let it lead you into situations where you are continually putdown at work or at home.  Learn to avoid relationships that may well become violent.  Turn your life around.  One of my counselling clients said “I never knew life could be so good” – join him in that please.

It is possible to change your life.  If this re-packaged section of my book “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth has been useful do go on to read the whole book!  Create a happier life!

 

3 Replies
Susan Price’s Book Review of “Emotional Health for Emotional Wealth”

I requested Susan Price’s permission to re-print her book review here of my book Emotional Health For Emotional Wealth not just for “puffery”, but because I thought she did a brilliant job of a balanced and heartfelt review from one author of another.  It was originally published on IEBR.  We are both members of a professional writers’ group, yet because we work through the internet we have never met.  Susan Price works in a totally different genre and for me that is what made her comments about my work so valuable.  This is what she had to say:-

Susan Jane Smith’s photo shows someone very like the ideal grandmother: smiling, kind, wise, good humoured, ready to listen, and understand.

Her book shows this to be an accurate assessment.  Life experience has taught her wisdom.  Twenty years of counselling means that nothing surprises or shocks her.  Her advice may not be what you want to hear, but it’s probably what you need to hear.

Susan Jane Smith herself says that this is ‘another self-help book.’  What makes it different is the fine anger underlying the compassion and advice, and the passion for helping people to overcome the emotional pain she suffered herself.

Emotional pain means you cannot be healthy:  you cannot live at ease with yourself.  Nor can you be emotionally wealthy.  You may have material wealh – you may be driven to tirelessly acquire more and more ‘success’ – but emotional pain prevents you from relaxing, or simply, wholeheartedly enjoying anything.  The pain forever chafes and nags. 

It can be so established that it seems normal, yet it still hinders people, adversely influencing their choices in careers, in partners, life.

Susan Jane Smith knows all too well that attaining the peace of ‘emotional health’ isn’t easy.  Habits are hard to change, and trying often rouses old terrors:  but many live with such distress they are willing to work hard to be rid of it:  to endure the nightmares, the withdrawal, the loss of family and friends…whatever it takes.

Susan Smith went through this struggle herself, and relates how, after years of counselling, she woke one day to a puzzling sensation:  an absence of the emotional pain that had chafed her for so long.  The experience set her on a crusade:  to qualify as a counsellor so she could relieve others’ pain.

Her message is simple:  if you don’t like your life, change it.  If you can’t understand what is causing your pain, don’t know what to change, or how to begin – then find a therapist to help you puzzle it out, and encourge you when it gets tough.

Her advice is excellent, but she doesn’t expect you simply to accept it, and recommends many other titles and organisations for consultation.  The book is a veritable self-therapy source-book.

She discusses the pain caused by the abuse of children, domestic violence and rape – and also the addictions and compulsive habits so often employed as a desperate way of controlling the resulting emotional pain:  alcoholism and other drug abuse, compulsive eating and starving, over-work and self-harm.

But the advice is always based on what Susan Smith has found to be pratical and effective.  It is admiraly down-to-earth and realistic.

She has counselled abusers and rapists, and although she has compassion for them, her attitude is refreshingly steely: “My understanding from the people I have worked with who perpetrated abuse is that they simply ‘wanted to’ and could.  They have a callous disregard for the victim…One man said…it would be a crime [only] if the victim told the police.  Distorted thinking!”

The book’s empowering anger is inspired by injustice, cruelty and apathy.  a Telegraph headline – ‘Child Abuse Won’t be Overcome Until We Define What It is’ – makes her demand:  Do governments and social services still not know what it is?  She provides, from her experience, a full definition for their assistance. [http://authorselectric.blogspot.co.uk/2012/01/physical-and-emotional-abuse-hurts.html]

She has listened to the damaged adult victims of every kind of child abuse:  children hit with pokers, constantly ridiculed, left hungry and cold for days, raped.  Her fervent wish, I think, is for us all to sort ourselves out and stop treating each other so badly!

As the old Russian tales says, ‘There would be no suffering on earth…if only we were kind to each other.’

Sadly, that time will never come, but Susan Jane Smith will battle on – an odd, but brave, shining knight.

Almost everyone would gain some insight, some help from reading this book – and if you are one of the many bruised and reeling from a cruel childhood, or rape, or assault by a partner – to name only a few possible traumas – I think this book would be a strong, supportive, wise friend.”

To learn more about Susan Price please see:

www.susanpriceauthor.com

http://susanpricesblog.blogspot.co.uk

http://electricauthors.jimdo.com

www.AuthorsElectric.co.uk

 

 

 

 

 

Comments Off